I left my corporate job about a month and a half ago and am still healing. I didn’t know exactly where I would go to next, but I chose a date and circled it any way. What I did know was that it was my time to step outside of the comfort zone of doing my job well, into the uncertainty of trusting my intuition.

So here I am navigating a phase in-between the old era, Monday through Friday 40-50 hours a week, and what’s to come in a new era (offering up my gifts to the world of women leaders having an impact in the way that fuels me). It’s the good ol’ transition creeping in my life yet again as I explore this change that was totally intentional yet a bit unclear.

In my monthly email I spoke about transitions, and walked through a transition model by William Bridges. If you want to check out a visual of this simple yet powerful model, you can download the free Transition Worksheet here. I wrote a few coaching questions for each of the 3 phases in a transition, and also included a few tips on how to honor that specific phase. Let’s take me as a real and practical example:

Transition

I am releasing the typical 40-hour week of a rigid schedule and now discovering what work and life is like for me as a Coach-sultant (Coach + Consultant)

Old Era

Q: How can you symbolize the end of an era?

A: Sending back the hardware and belongings for work really put things into perspective because they were physically out of my sight. Something I did was pray over my office asking for a cleanse of what was to what is in this new era. That helped conclude my time working full-time, giving thanks and gratitude for all the years I had worked from the office.

Neutral Zone

Q: What is most important to you?

A: I have definitely rested and restored my body, mind and spirit over the summer. What I know is most important to me is being present for everything from my kids to possibilities with my own coaching business. Having a well-balanced schedule of work and play is also important for me going into a new era. Nothing felt better than to have complete peace in the moment without worrying about any obligations or doing something I dreaded doing. I don’t ever want to loose that feeling and essence of peace and calming.

New Era

Q: How can you celebrate new beginnings?

A: I am definitely excited for what’s to come in my near future (and now!). I am celebrating by taking walks JUST BECAUSE… going paddle boarding JUST BECAUSE… and even reading a book outside in the middle of the day JUST BECAUSE. I’m also giving myself the permission to share openly about my coaching practice, intentions to create and innovate, and what’s’ next even when it’s not super clear. All while quieting down that hyper-achiever in me :)

Processing, reflecting, processing some more really helps me have clarity for what’s possible rather than “what if…”. The intent is not to ignore my negative feelings that may arise through transitions, but instead using them as an indicator that something is off for me – so now what? What I choose from that point in time can either deplete me or serve me.

What transitions are you going through? What’s possible if you can pause in this moment to reflect which phase you are in?

Give yourself grace, patience and understanding no matter what transition you are in!

Light + Love,

Bev

P.S. Don’t forget to download your FREE Transition Worksheet here!

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I was talking to my husband the other night about TRANSITION. What does that mean? How is transition different from change? What has transition looked like for us, and even my life before meeting my prince charming (yes, you Babs if you’re reading this!). First off, to differentiate the two, the biggest difference between change and transition is that change is an event that occurs quickly, which most people react towards. Transition occurs internally through your mindset, which is the response to change that occurred.

What I realized is that the first time I truly experienced a transition was when when my parents divorced when I was 2 years old. The change was both of them splitting up (the event) and my transition was about creating a norm being raised by 2 parents who lived apart from one another. From that very early point on, I can spot MANY other seasons of transition carrying over to present day.

Each birthday brought on a new transition in that year. Each grade I entered certainly came with transition. Each weekend I went from Mom’s house to Dad’s house I had to transition into my environment, family, culture and home. Even now as an adult I am constantly in a state of transition – moving from state to state… becoming a new parent… embracing different career opportunities… understanding myself even deeper through my walk with God.

Some of these transitions were smooth sailing for me, while others I resisted… pretty hard. Which led me to think, what are the lessons I have learned in my life about transitions? How can I take those lessons and re-learn them to help with some of the current transitions I face today (hello, COVID!) and any transition I will embrace in the future?

Here are the top 5 things I have learned through transitions which I hope can help you through any transition you may be facing:

1. Acknowledge the change that is occurring – Don’t step over it or hide from it because it will just delay your healing.

2. Nothing in life will stay constant (including yourself!) – Life is about the ebbs and flows of your being, including the ups and downs of situations that occur. Relax through the transition, giving yourself time to reflect on what was, honor what is, and anticipate what is to come with an open heart.

3. There is no picture perfect “right way” to approach a transition – Your way is the only way that you will get through it. Find what works for you, use your own methods to stay grounded through the shifts, and make adjustments that are necessary to honor your soul.

4. Breathe into who you are in the present moment without judgement – Don’t fault yourself for feeling sad, upset, stressed about the change. You are exactly where you need to be in this season of life, and know that you can choose to feel another way that will serve you.

5. You have what it takes to embrace this transition – The years and experiences on earth has equipped you with what you need to survive. God would never put you through a situation you can’t handle as long as you walk alongside of Him. Lean into your faith, your family, your support system.

I have a nice graphic about transition that you can download on my FREEBIES page.

Be kind to yourself, meet your current needs through a change, and embrace the new transition with a heart of possibility.

What season are you transitioning into?

Light + Love,

Bev

Ready to take action on your transition today? Click here to schedule a free 30-minute Discovery Session Call with me!

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